Step 3

SURRENDER, TRUST, AND FAITH

Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”


Some decisions we have made

  • We had been defeated.
  • We needed help, and asked for it.
  • We decided to keep going to meetings.
  • We decided to stop acting and speak our own truth.
  • We decided to listen intently to others.
  • We decided to stop comparing.
  • We decided to look at the literature.
  • We decided to study the program.
  • We decided we needed a sponsor.

Key Points

  • Step Three is like opening of a locked door.
  • How shall we let God into our lives?
  • Willingness is the key.
  • Dependence as a means to independence.
  • Dangers of self-sufficiency.
  • Turning our will over to higher Power.
  • Misuse of will power.
  • Sustained and personal exertion necessary to conform to God’s will.

Light bulb moments

  • I can’t, He can, I think I’ll ask Him.
  • I need all the help I can get.
  • I might have been wrong.
  • Have I been listening?
  • I can talk to others about this.
  • Turn = a change of direction.
  • Absolute requirement for a spiritual awakening to rid me of my obsession.
  • The only thing I need to know about God is than I’m not Him!
  • I need to make a consistent and sustained effort, and develop a routine.

“Our whole trouble has been the misuse of will-power. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with God’s intention for us. To make this increasingly possible is the purpose of A.A.’s Twelve Steps, and Step Three opens the door.”



Suggested Reading

Big Book: Ch 5 “How It Works” p60 – 63

12×12:”Step Three” p35 – 42

Came To Believe


Some pages from As Bill Sees It

  • #87:     Keystone of the Arch
  • #122:   Willingness is the Key
  • #139:   Basis of All Humility
  • #219:   Willing to Believe
  • #254:   Satisfactions of Right Living

Step 3 Promises

a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives. 
b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism. 
c) That God could and would if he were sought.
(p60)
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. (p62)
Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom.(p62)
When we sincerely took such a position, all sort of remarkable things followed.(p63)
We had a new Employer.(p63)
Being all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept close to Him and performed His work well.(p63)
Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves, our little plans and designs.(p63)
More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life.(p63)
As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.(p63)
We were reborn.(p63)
This was only the beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.(p63)

Step 3 Prayers

Without help, it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power – that One is God. May we find Him now.

God I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of Life. May Ido Thy will always!

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done.


Humble, Open-minded and Willing

Into Your hands, 0 Lord, I praise this joy, this sorrow, this problem, this decision.

Into Your hands I praise each moment as it comes, each event You send to me.

Into Your hands I put this thing I have to do or suffer.

Into Your hands this love, this responsibility.

Into Your hands this weakness, this defect, this failure,this wrong thing that I have done.

And so, finally, into Your hands I place my life as a whole,all that I am; be it done according to Your will.


My Way

Lord, take me where You want me to go;

Let me meet who You want me to meet;

Tell me what You want me to say;

And keep me out of my own way.


Category: Step 3

Step 3

  • Step 3

    Step 3

    SURRENDER, TRUST, AND FAITH

    Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”


    Some decisions we have made

    • We had been defeated.
    • We needed help, and asked for it.
    • We decided to keep going to meetings.
    • We decided to stop acting and speak our own truth.
    • We decided to listen intently to others.
    • We decided to stop comparing.
    • We decided to look at the literature.
    • We decided to study the program.
    • We decided we needed a sponsor.

    Key Points

    • Step Three is like opening of a locked door.
    • How shall we let God into our lives?
    • Willingness is the key.
    • Dependence as a means to independence.
    • Dangers of self-sufficiency.
    • Turning our will over to higher Power.
    • Misuse of will power.
    • Sustained and personal exertion necessary to conform to God’s will.

    Light bulb moments

    • I can’t, He can, I think I’ll ask Him.
    • I need all the help I can get.
    • I might have been wrong.
    • Have I been listening?
    • I can talk to others about this.
    • Turn = a change of direction.
    • Absolute requirement for a spiritual awakening to rid me of my obsession.
    • The only thing I need to know about God is than I’m not Him!
    • I need to make a consistent and sustained effort, and develop a routine.

    “Our whole trouble has been the misuse of will-power. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with God’s intention for us. To make this increasingly possible is the purpose of A.A.’s Twelve Steps, and Step Three opens the door.”



    Suggested Reading

    Big Book: Ch 5 “How It Works” p60 – 63

    12×12:”Step Three” p35 – 42

    Came To Believe


    Some pages from As Bill Sees It

    • #87:     Keystone of the Arch
    • #122:   Willingness is the Key
    • #139:   Basis of All Humility
    • #219:   Willing to Believe
    • #254:   Satisfactions of Right Living

    Step 3 Promises

    a) That we were alcoholic and could not manage our own lives. 
    b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism. 
    c) That God could and would if he were sought.
    (p60)
    Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. (p62)
    Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom.(p62)
    When we sincerely took such a position, all sort of remarkable things followed.(p63)
    We had a new Employer.(p63)
    Being all powerful, He provided what we needed, if we kept close to Him and performed His work well.(p63)
    Established on such a footing we became less and less interested in ourselves, our little plans and designs.(p63)
    More and more we became interested in seeing what we could contribute to life.(p63)
    As we felt new power flow in, as we enjoyed peace of mind, as we discovered we could face life successfully, as we became conscious of His presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter.(p63)
    We were reborn.(p63)
    This was only the beginning, though if honestly and humbly made, an effect, sometimes a very great one, was felt at once.(p63)

    Step 3 Prayers

    Without help, it is too much for us. But there is One who has all power – that One is God. May we find Him now.

    God I offer myself to Thee – to build with me and do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy Power, Thy Love, and Thy Way of Life. May Ido Thy will always!

    God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done.


    Humble, Open-minded and Willing

    Into Your hands, 0 Lord, I praise this joy, this sorrow, this problem, this decision.

    Into Your hands I praise each moment as it comes, each event You send to me.

    Into Your hands I put this thing I have to do or suffer.

    Into Your hands this love, this responsibility.

    Into Your hands this weakness, this defect, this failure,this wrong thing that I have done.

    And so, finally, into Your hands I place my life as a whole,all that I am; be it done according to Your will.


    My Way

    Lord, take me where You want me to go;

    Let me meet who You want me to meet;

    Tell me what You want me to say;

    And keep me out of my own way.


  • How It Works part 1: Step 3

    How It Works part 1: Step 3

    p58-63 incl

    p58

    We are given clear instruction to be brave and to dig deep, in order to completely give ourselves to this simple program, as many other have done before us.

    To do so we need be determined and willing to become able to become;

    • Absolutely honest
    • Fearless
    • Thorough
    • Open-minded and unbiased

    To do this we need the help of others and our Higher Power.

    p59

    Outlines the certain and secure steps that we took.

    p60

    We are encouraged to make spiritual progress, rather than to seek spiritual perfection.

    The three pertinent ideas, carry us to Step Three.

    We have to be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success.

    p61

    Using the metaphor of the actor running the whole show, our egotistical controlling nature is revealed, fuelled by delusion, resentment, blame and self-pity.

    p62

    We recognise that our troubles are basically of our own making. If we are to take responsibility for them, then we have to be able to recruit God’s help. There is no alternative.

    p63

    The Step 3 Promise is followed by the Third Step Prayer, and we are encouraged to take this step with another understanding person.