p64 – p71

p64

Having made our decision (Step 3) we at once embarked on “a strenuous effort to face, and be rid of the things in ourselves which had been blocking us.”

“We took stock honestly.”

A) My inventory of resentments

Which part of self has been hurt or threatened to make us feel angry?

• Pride
• Self-esteem
• Ambitions
• Personal relations (social security)
• Sexual relations (sexual security)
• Financial security
• Emotional security

p65

The three column inventory:

• I’m resentful at
• The Cause
• Affects My (Part of self that is threatened)

To which a 4th column may be added:

• Where was I to blame

We are instructed to be thorough and honest, and to review our list carefully.

p66

Anger and resentment are poison to the alcoholic, and we have to be rid of them or they will kill us. My inventory is my key to my future.

p67

“This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done.”

We avoid retaliation or argument and rely on God to allow us to express tolerance, pity, patience and kindness.

B) My inventory of faults

We reviewed our inventory and listed our faults in the third column – where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking or afraid? Where were we to blame? “We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these matters straight.”

C) My inventory of fears

The evil and corroding thread of fear, and how it affected us.

p68

“We trust infinite God rather than our finite selves.”

Breathe in God, breathe out fear.

How have my fears changed, since I started coming to A.A.?

p69

D) My sex inventory

We have to be honest and thorough, and to have the humility to see that we are no different from others, steering clear of controversy. Have I considered what it was like for other persons involved?

Where was I selfish, dishonest or inconsiderate?

E) My inventory of harms

What parts of self did I damage in others? Did my actions or absences cause anxiety, jealousy, suspicion, bitterness fear and isolation?

We need to pray and meditate to find a resolution to each individual matter. “The right answer will come if we want it.”

p70

“If we are not sorry, and our conduct continues to harm others, we are quite sure to drink. We are not theorising. These are facts out of our experience.”

Final part of the 4th step prayer.

4th step promises

p71

Continue to build your relationship with your Higher Power.

p58-63 incl

p58

We are given clear instruction to be brave and to dig deep, in order to completely give ourselves to this simple program, as many other have done before us.

To do so we need be determined and willing to become able to become;

• Absolutely honest
• Fearless
• Thorough
• Open-minded and unbiased

To do this we need the help of others and our Higher Power.

p59

Outlines the certain and secure steps that we took.

p60

We are encouraged to make spiritual progress, rather than to seek spiritual perfection.

The three pertinent ideas, carry us to Step Three.

We have to be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success.

p61

Using the metaphor of the actor running the whole show, our egotistical controlling nature is revealed, fuelled by delusion, resentment, blame and self-pity.

p62

We recognise that our troubles are basically of our own making. If we are to take responsibility for them, then we have to be able to recruit God’s help. There is no alternative.

p63

The Step 3 Promise is followed by the Third Step Prayer, and we are encouraged to take this step with another understanding person.